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Post by ONTARIO on Tue Nov 28, 2017 7:49 pm

I like to listen to podcasts in the car. Last night I had one of Robb Wolfe's playing and his Guest was Gretchen Rubin. She is the author of The Four Tendencies. And as she went through them I was laughing because I had to wonder if Paleo/Primal people who frequent (ahem....need) forums all fall into the same category. Our need for information and affirmation that furthers our knowledge seems rampant.

I'm a QUESTIONER. Not surprised. But I wonder if many MDA forum users are, too.

So, go take the quiz.

https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/take-the-quiz/

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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Glass Full of Air on Wed Nov 29, 2017 9:25 am

I appear to be an obliger (which doesn't actually surprise me). I do love research though! Smile

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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Narrowminded on Wed Nov 29, 2017 12:31 pm

I'm a Questioner as well.
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Post by nikitakolata on Wed Nov 29, 2017 1:32 pm

I'm also an obliger who loves to research. I'm not that surprised by the results. I don't really have trouble doing things for myself, but I can't seem to keep commitments to myself very well, especially as they relate to weight/health.
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by perennialpam on Wed Nov 29, 2017 1:36 pm

I am an Obliger. I change what I am doing based on other's expectations but manage to do what I want eventually. I have responsibilities for an elderly parent and those expectations are difficult being an only child now.

I like research and read/listen to alternative viewpoints. Pretty solid in my viewpoints though. Smile

Thanks for this site.
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Meant2Move on Fri Dec 01, 2017 12:35 pm

I got Questioner - didn't really expect that...
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by marcadav on Fri Dec 01, 2017 8:07 pm

I got Upholder. I'm not surprised.

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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by ekba on Fri Dec 01, 2017 8:33 pm

Questioner. And I need to know why everyone wouldn't be one.
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Starkanda on Tue Dec 05, 2017 2:58 pm

Obliger. Not happy about that, but it explains a lot :-(
BTW, I love Gretchen Rubin! Her podcast is great!

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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Heuristicfireflower on Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:29 am

Even before taking the quiz,  I know I am a Questioner.  In fact, I settled on my handle to reflect that.  Wink

Experiences with Doctors evaluations and prescriptions helped push me there and  cemented that trait pretty solidly.  

I listened to Gretchen Rubin's books on audio Happier at Home and The Happiness Project and I recall she had an uplifting view of life. Probably should listen to it again.

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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Lovebird on Fri Dec 08, 2017 9:20 am

ekba wrote:Questioner. And I need to know why everyone wouldn't be one.

*Like* Love your foodpics BTW.

I recall posting about this in my MDA journal. Questioner as well. Why? Why not? Very Happy
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by LoonieJ on Tue Mar 13, 2018 2:54 pm

According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Rebel.

Quelle surprise!
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Meant2Move on Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:03 pm

Indeed!
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Lovebird on Sat Oct 06, 2018 3:53 am

In case you need a reminder as to how to change an important habit, based on your tendency:

https://gretchenrubin.com/2017/07/want-to-change-an-important-habit/

Note: While many strategies work for just about everybody (Convenience, Inconvenience, Foundation, Clean Slate, Lightning Bolt), some strategies that work very well for one Tendency can actually be counter-productive for another.


UPHOLDER

Strategy of Scheduling (most important for Upholders)

The Strategy of Scheduling is a powerful tool for Upholders. They love to keep a schedule and march through every item. Whatever appears on the calendar—go to the gym on Monday and Thursday, write 1,000 words every day, goof off—gets done. They can make time for every person and activity they value, by putting it on the calendar.

Strategy of Clarity

When Upholders know clearly what's expected, they can generally meet that expectations. Very, very important to remember: Upholders can meet inner expectations, but only when those inner expectations are articulated.

Strategy of Monitoring

Upholders do well with the Strategy of Monitoring, because they tend to love to-do lists with items to check off. Monitoring plays to this inclination: “I intend to walk 10,000 steps today, and look, my monitor says I hit that number.”

Strategy of Pairing

Upholders can make good use of the Strategy of Pairing, because it’s easy for them to enforce the pairing rule on themselves. If an Upholder gets himself to go to the gym by pairing, “I can only shave on a day when I’ve gone to the gym,” he won’t have any trouble holding himself to that pairing.

Note: Because Upholders can take advantage of just about every strategy, anyone who touts a scheme or device that’s meant to help people form good habits will have some success—because Upholders will tend to uphold, no matter what.


QUESTIONER

Strategy of Clarity (most important for Questioners)

The Strategy of Clarity is crucial for Questioners. They want to know exactly what they’re doing, and why. They won’t meet an expectation if they don’t understand the reason, so they must receive robust answers to their questions. They also must clearly see and trust the authority and expertise of the person asking them to meet that expectation.

Strategy of Monitoring

The Strategy of Monitoring is a good fit for Questioners; Questioners’ love of data means they enjoy self-monitoring. They might wear a device to track the number of steps they take; use an app to track when they take their medication, or chart what time they go to bed.

Strategy of Distinctions

The Strategy of Distinctions may resonate with Questioners, because it emphasizes that a habit should be tweaked very specifically to suit an individual’s character and idiosyncrasies—something that appeals to Questioners, who love customization. They can sometimes be convinced to try something “as an experiment.” “Why don’t you try this, you’ll find out if it works for you, and if not, you can try something else.”

Strategy of Loophole-Spotting

The Strategy of Loophole-Spotting is particularly important for Questioners, because it addresses a common stumbling block for Questioners: the invoking of loopholes to justify breaking a good habit. “I should exercise.” “But it’s too cold outside.” “Do my workout inside.” “But I have too much work and that takes precedence over exercise.”


OBLIGER

Strategy of Accountability (most important for Obligers)

All Four Tendencies (even, under certain circumstances, Rebels) find accountability to be useful for developing habits, but Obligers absolutely require structures of external accountability. They need oversight, deadlines, and consequences, and the involvement of accountability partners, such as coaches, accountability groups, trainers, health navigators, friends, or their own children. Obligers often feel a powerful sense of obligation to be good role models. They can often do something for someone else that they can’t do for themselves: “Once my baby was born, I had to quit smoking.”

Strategy of Monitoring

Monitoring supports accountability, and the more Obligers monitor their behavior, the more easily accountability will attach.

Strategy of Other People

Because of the weight imposed by outer expectations, Obligers—and the people around Obligers—must take careful note of the influence of other people, for good or ill.

Strategy of Treats

All of us should use the Strategy of Treats; when we give more to ourselves, we can ask more from ourselves. Because Obligers may fall into Obliger-rebellion when they feel burned out or exploited, it’s important that they get treats as a way to energize themselves. Remember, a treat is different from a reward! Rewards are very, very tricky to use correctly. Stick with treats!


REBEL

Strategy of Identity (most important for Rebels)

For Rebels, the most effective habit-change strategy is the Strategy of Identity. Because Rebels place great value on being true to themselves, they can embrace a habit if they view it as a way to express their identity.

Strategy of Clarity

The Strategy of Clarity works for Rebels, because it focuses on why a habit might have personal value for them. The more Rebels think about what they want, and why they want it, the more effectively they pursue it.

Strategy of Convenience

Instead of trying to commit to scheduling a habit, Rebels often do habit-behaviors as soon as they feel like it.

Strategy of Other People

The Strategy of Other People is also a useful strategy for Rebels to consider; Rebels love doing things differently from other people. They do an obscure kind of yoga, run barefoot, exercise late at night.

Note: Rebels tend to resist if you ask or tell them to do anything. It’s very important—but challenging—to avoid setting off their spirit of resistance. Also, many of the 21 strategies that work well for other Tendencies typically don’t work for Rebels: for instance, Strategies of Scheduling, Accountability, Monitoring, or Rewards.


From Better Than Before: The 21 Strategies for Habit Change

The Four Tendencies (subject of my forthcoming book, The Four Tendencies)
Distinctions (what works for other people may not work for you)
Monitoring
Foundation
Scheduling (this is often counter-productive for Rebels)
Accountability (Obligers! This is YOUR STRATEGY)
First Steps (be on the look out for opportunities to harness this powerful strategy)
Clean Slate (this strategy is powerful, but only available at certain times)
Lightning Bolt (it's frustrating--this is a strategy that happens to you; you can't invoke it)
Abstaining (this strategy works extremely well for some people, and not at all for others)
Convenience (this is the most universal strategy)
Inconvenience (twin of Convenience)
Safeguards
Loophole-Spotting (this strategy is hilarious to study)
Distractions
Reward (beware! this is a very, very tricky strategy to apply effectively)
Treats (this is definitely the most fun strategy to follow)
Pairing
Clarity
Identity (it took me a long time to realize the power of this strategy)
Other People (never overlook this strategy)
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Narrowminded on Sat Oct 06, 2018 8:24 am


Thanks for the reminder LB. Now If I could remember what I was?? Too much going on in my life. That tidbit got lost. Sad
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Re: Four Tendencies

Post by Lovebird on Sat Oct 06, 2018 8:33 am

Narrowminded wrote:
Thanks for the reminder LB.  Now If I could remember what I was??  Too much going on in my life.  That tidbit got lost. Sad

You're welcome NM.

Narrowminded wrote:I'm a Questioner as well.

Just scrolled up in the thread itself... Smile
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